Friday, October 23, 2009

The other day I heard the singer of this song on the Radio. His comment was that the song is about the classic falling in love again, and how we have the power in our relationships to "rekindle" what we had in the beginning. Here is the song.

Let's pretend baby
that you've just met me
and I've never seen you before

I'll tell all my friends
that I think you're staring
And you say the same
to yours

And Oh
We'll dance around it all night
and then I'll follow you outside
And try to open up my mouth
and nothing comes out right

And I wanna fall in love with you again
I don't have to try
It's so easy who needs to pretend
But because
It's so funny let's just think about it honey
Let's just fall in love again

I'll call you in three days
Not too soon not too late
And I'll ask your roommate if you're home


You'll call me on Thursday
And we'll hang out all day
Then fall asleep on the phone

And Oh
I'll hold your hand when we drive
And we'll lose track of all the time
And we'll tell everyone that we ain't never felt so alive


We'll fall disgustingly fast
And we'll stop hanging out with friends
And they'll be so offended

Oh ooh oh


Let's just fall in love again
So let's just fall in love again

I chuckled through the song since my wonderful wife (the keeper of this blog) and I are basically guilty of everything this song describes as "Falling in Love." Its a fun song, and catchy, but as I got to thinking about it, I started to ask myself, would I really want to go back to the days of awkwardness, exploration, and uncertainty over the real intimacy of who we are today. It did not take me long to decide.

I think in our culture, we have stopped celebrating love, and started focusing our celebration on a subset of love based around the intense feeling felt with the newness of a new person. Perhaps this is why so many of our marriages end in affairs. As a culture we have been told to expect that amazing take-over-every-thought-in-your-mind feeling all the time. If that is lost, then we must "fall in love again."

How unfortunate, because there is nothing as powerful and fulfilling as knowing and being so fully known as what comes with long enduring marriage.

The parallel spiritually is obvious. When we first come to Christ, everything is new. Everything is exciting. Spiritual truths seem to enthrall us each day. Some folks live for that feeling. They pursue new ways to create that spiritual high, and start to miss the power in coming into deeper knowledge of the One who knows them completely.

In marriage, and in Christ, falling in love does not look like this song would allude to. Instead it should look like two folks, so in tune with one another that they act and think alike. They feel completely at peace in each other's company. There is no need for a facade. There is no need to try to impress. There is no fear. There is simply perfect Love.

Lord help me to grow in my "perfect love" of You and my wife. If anything, my cry is that I could fall deeper in love with you again!

Friday, August 14, 2009

A Case for Early Marriage

I am hoping Google's servers crash and burn long before Norah or Avril have a chance to hold me to this, but I think this article, or at least its premise, is dead nuts on, and is something I have said for years.

I do not want to recap the whole article, as I would rather have you read it, even if it is a bit long. I will only say this. I find it against the character of God to PURPOSEFULLY build us with incredibly strong sex drives young only to say do not use it. It simply does not fit with the God I know. He does not design for no purpose. Instead, I think that sex drive is designed to unify two people, and to produce offspring, both of which are only possible under God's plan in the context of marriage. This does not minimize the directive to stay chaste if you are not married, but it is the only logical conclusion I can come up with to why sex drives are so strong so young.

Monday, August 10, 2009

Generation Gap

I have so many fond memories as a child playing Kings in the Corner at Grandmom Gerda's house. It was a highlight of our vacations to Florida. We played with a normal deck, on just a table, and scoring was based on how many cards you had in your hand.

Now that Norah is of age, we have started playing this version of Kings in the Corner. It has cool chips, and a stand in the middle to hold the different cards. I think that it says something of the generation gap where we now need devices to facilitate proper play, and so forth, but that's not the main point.

The main point is that children love to play games with people they love. I did, and it was pretty fantastic. Norah does, and I think its wonderful. Generation gaps change a lot of things, but the real foundational truths don't change with the fads.

Tuesday, January 20, 2009

First Post

As is customary in these endeavors, I begin with a first post.